Updated: Jul 3, 2019
Sometimes we all feel a little lost in life and need a little non-bias help from the outside. Other times, we can feel completely isolated from experiencing extreme anxiety or even go through an existential crisis that leaves you tattered and disconnected from your sanity...
In these cases, we have a lot of options – we can turn to a lifestyle coach, to a psychologist or even to a friend to lend an ear and provide some advice.
And even when life is going well, having someone that you trust and someone with good emotional intelligence can be a great help to ensure that you continue to make the right decisions and help take some of the burden off.
But psychologists and lifestyle coaches aren’t the only option out there, and more often than not, they do not provide you with the spiritual, energetic element that aligns you with universal nature.
Something you might not have considered is a spiritual advisor. Read on and we’ll take a look at what this term means - and whether it’s right for you.
What is a Spiritual Advisor and Why do You Need One?
The term spiritual advisor is not one that fits neatly into a box for a simple definition. After all, the term ‘spiritual’ itself is somewhat abstract and can mean different things to different people.
To me, spirituality means to find guidance - and that is something I have seen people want most in life; clarity and confidence in their choices.
In general, you can think of a spiritual advisor as a coach, as a mentor or as a friend, who will listen to your questions, concerns and situations and help to offer guidance from a spiritual perspective.
This can sometimes be exactly what you need in order to make life that little bit easier and more manageable and you’d be surprised what a long-lasting impact a spiritual advisor can have.
Psychologists can be great and they have their place – but they’re also very expensive and deal very specifically with psychological problems like anxieties, phobias and depression. The same goes for counsellors. If you don’t consider yourself ill, or are mostly feeling detached and uncertain about the world, then you might not like the thought of seeing this kind of professional.
Likewise, a lifestyle coach can tell you how to stay fit and how to dress right but that’s from a surface-perspective.
A spiritual advisor on the other hand can help you from the soul outwards, to make the right decisions from your own, aligned intuition. They can help you to see more clearly when your judgement is clouded by stress and everyday concerns and they can give you insight based on your unique situation.
What Does a Spiritual Advisor Do?
A spiritual advisor may be a guide or a person with an extensive history in spiritual practice, combined with medial gifts and a deep knowlege of the human condition.
A spiritual advisor can also be a psychic and might use divination and psychic readings to help you make difficult decisions and to give you some clues as to what lies around the next corner.
What a Spiritual Advisor is Not
But perhaps what is most important to understand is what a spiritual advisor is not.
A spiritual advisor is not someone, for example, who predicts the future with accuracy. It’s important to recognize that we all have free will and we can all influence the outcomes of our fate. Our energy is what holds most importance in life and how we direct positive or negative energy is what makes up for our manifested lives.
A spiritual advisor knows that you are the creator of your life and does not advise you on what you want to hear - but what is necessary for your personal spiritual growth.
And for the same reason, a spiritual advisor should never tell you what you should do and they should never try and influence your beliefs.
The person who believes that they are right and you are wrong, is the person who is too arrogant to be useful as an advisor. Someone with real wisdom will recognize that we all have different temperaments, different ideals and different beliefs – and these will suit our personalities and match our experiences. As soon as someone starts telling you what you should think, you stop being honest with yourself and you start making mistakes.
“A good spiritual advisor tells you where to look, not what to see.”
Ultimately, the spiritual advisor is someone who can help you to be better in tune with your heart and your feelings.
Finding an Advisor
If you’re in the process of finding a spiritual advisor, then it’s important to spend some time actually speaking with the person you hope to learn from and work with before you make your decision.
Very quickly, you will find that you can get a good feel for what that person believes, who they are and what they can offer you. It’s crucial that you get a good ‘vibe’ from this person, as you’ll be talking about personal matters and you need to feel you can trust them and be open with them.
There are also some other characteristics that are important. You must feel for instance that the advisor is very sensitive and in tune with you and their surroundings. Likewise, you ideally want someone who is knowledgeable and broadly experienced with both Eastern and Wester thought – and especially if you’re seeking guidance in a religious context.
If you choose your advisor wisely, then you can feel as though a great weight has been lifted in your life. You’ll have more confidence in your decisions, more idea of what’s important to you and more trust in how you feel and in what you believe. It may give you confidence you never knew you possessed and "brainwash you into believing in yourself". It may also give you that lift in life that often makes us stuck for years in repeating habits and unfulfilled relationships.
I spent years in Sri Lanka studying under spiritual figures, but when I got home, I could not fit these valuable practices into motherhood, a full time job or the contemporary world. In all religions of the world, fining an advisor is of highest priority to keep you on track with your personal growth - but in Western culture, we often lose touch with ourselves because we do not have the means or availability to afford these vital guides. We also don't know where to start looking for one, or if these guides are genuine, experienced or can offer you exactly what you need.
This is why I became an author and developed my own spiritual consultation practice - to help others get the spiritual advice they need. Whether it is an ongoing consultation that checks in every month with your development - or simple a deep question you need help with - Book a consultation with Sez and get the spiritual direction you are looking for.
All consultations are personal, confidential and uniquely tailored to you and your story. You don't pay until you know that I am the right person to help you and all consultations are made according to your calendar.
✣ I offer a safe environment, where I am able to hold space for all people, from all walks of life, with all different stories and guide without judgement, prejudice or bias. I am a child of the universe and so are you ✣