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Befriending Ourselves

Befriending ourselves means giving ourselves a break from the exhausting Self-Improvement Project that so many of us have become tangled up in; and slowing down, taking a few deep breaths, and allowing ourselves to experience the entirety of the present moment without trying to fix or change it, even if it’s uncomfortable, intense, or “negative.”


To discover for ourselves whether this moment truly needs to be improved, or is somehow already complete. Not the picture or idea of “complete” the mind thinks or has been told it needs or requires, but the completeness of the heart, a wholeness. It’s a vastness that is always already present and will never be found by means of more and more acquisition of material things, concepts, experiences, or insights. The completeness and wholeness of the sky, even in the midst of a storm.


Meditation means falling in love with where you are, even if where you are is hot and sticky and unpleasant, and a bit scary and groundless. Even if you have to begin with falling in love with the part of you that wants to be somewhere else.



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